Working with yourself

Have you ever thought of the things you want to change about yourself; physical appearance, financial wellbeing, character e.t.c.? Heavens know how many times I sit and day dream of the many things I want to change and the millions of wonderful things I believe could do for myself should these changes be effected. However, more often than not, these changes are fickle, selfish and very invalid. Do not get me wrong, it is healthy to dream (just don't stay in bed too long!) but some dreams we have are just plain and simple; not worth it.

Jane believes that if she loses weight, she will automatically be attractive to other men. She has a plan; to eat as little as possible (read starve herself), hit the gym every single day of the week and almost sell her soul to the devil to shed those extra pounds. She believes that being skinny will make men swoon and get into stampedes to be with her. Mary believes that if she hangs out with the president's daughter (who is so spoilt, that you can not stand) she will be accorded the respect that comes with knowing with the who's-who. Martin dances to the whims and dictates of his girlfriend because it makes him look sweet and loving yet he hates it!



When will we stop burdening ourselves with unnecessary obligations for appearance sake? Why are we so limited in our way of thinking that we do not pause to think that there is more to life than what we are narrow-mindedly focused on? When will we learn that we are created with a wholesome sense of self that is attractive to somebody somewhere? When will we stop working on ourselves? The answer is simple and not so simple; when we embrace and accept ourselves wholly and learn to work with the mix of strengths and weaknesses that we are given by our maker to the best advantage.

While personal growth and development is important for the human psych and relations, we need to understand that we are who are, wonderfully and fearfully made and that most of the things we try to change are inherent. Working with yourself allows and enables growth.. Working on yourself often-times leads to acquiring nasty traits as you try to be what you are not. Concentrate on your strengths, that way your weaknesses rarely, if not come to play, concentrate harder and your weaknesses will fade away. Give yourself realistic goals and ambitions, do not be hard too hard on yourself. Life is not a chemical experiment, there are no mistakes, just lessons learned. People, you can have it all; complete self acceptance and personal growth.

Go on, be the best you can be, work with yourself.